Published On: Mon, Aug 26th, 2019

Meghan Markle will always be ‘held up against’ Kate over motherhood – ‘Very damaging’ | Royal | News


Meghan and Kate have two different approaches to motherhood, and many commentators and members of the public are constantly comparing what the two Duchesses are doing with their children, Carole Ann Rice, a motherhood expert and life coach at Real Coaching Co, said. She told Express.co.uk: “Every mother has their own way of doing things. 

“We know our babies and we do what’s right for us.

“Poor Meghan will always be held up against her sister-in-law Kate, who is an experienced mum who appears to have a traditional way of rearing their children.

“Meghan is a modern mum who might try a few alternative ways of being a mother and perhaps some of us can learn from these new methods.”

Mother-of-three Kate is believed to be following more traditional methods to bring up her children than Meghan and Prince Harry

The Duchess of Cambridge and Prince William haven’t shared many details about their approach to parenthood beside wanting to be hands-on and share responsibilities, including school runs and helping with homework.

And they pledged to let George, Charlotte and Louis have a childhood as normal as possible, despite being heirs to the throne.

But the competition with Kate over motherhood is not Meghan’s only source of pressure as a new mother. 

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Meghan has been facing the “scrutiny” of other mothers and social media users since the birth of her child Archie, now three months old, according to Mrs Rice, who are constantly on the lookout for imperfections and flaws.

Just days following the birth of Archie on May 6, trolls on social media body-shamed Meghan for appearing to having gained weight during pregnancy.

And in July, when she turned up with Archie to cheer for Prince Harry during a charity polo match, social media users attacked Meghan for seemingly holding her baby the wrong way.

This public scrutiny and obsession about Meghan being a perfect mother can be “very damaging”.

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Mrs Rice continued: “The world’s eyes are honed on Meghan.

“Who would envy her for being constantly scrutinised?

“However, mums all over the world and experts are looking to catch her out, offer their opinion and find her lacking. 

“Other people’s judgment when you are a new mum can be very damaging.

“There is so much expectation to get back into shape, look well-groomed, having perfect sleeping and eating routines that you can feel a failure if you struggle, are running on empty and have a child that’s hard to settle. 

“Perfectionism in motherhood is a dangerous expectation.

“Motherhood is hard, messy, tiring and none of us gets it right. 

“But you can be a ‘good enough’ mum.

“You know instinctively what’s right for you and your baby and time helps us get into routines and practices that work for us and our offspring. 

“If you see images of the perfect mother flagged up in the press or online boasts you can start to compare and despair.” 

This constant scrutiny and pressure may take a toll on Meghan’s mental health, another expert has previously warned.

Angela Spencer, childcare expert and founder of Babyopathy, told Express.co.uk: “Many celebrities paint a picture of new motherhood on social media that is completely unrealistic, meaning that other mums may feel that they should be able to ‘keep up’ with their peers.

“We never know every detail of a person’s life or what they have experienced or felt, and this goes for their birth experiences too.

“When the press, as in Meghan’s case, make comments about how someone is carrying their baby or how big their tummy is still or even that they are painting too much of a perfect picture, those words are likely to effect a new mother who is already in a fragile state post-birth.

“Bullying is bullying whether it’s said to someone face to face or from behind a screen or a newspaper article.”      



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